Are you missing out?
You might not know this about me, especially since all my posts have ‘gone’, but as well as being a personal and spiritual coach, mentor and intuitive for midlife women, I’m also a yoga instructor.
I lead yoga classes at a local spa. Mostly it’s spa members who attend but often there are overnight guests and day visitors that book onto a class.
I try to give a range of experiences, some classes being very relaxing and others more stretchy or dynamic.
Sundays are purposefully more challenging, it starts the day off well!
Before we set sail with this challenging class, we chant.
Just recently something happened at the start of class that has happened before, but it made me think and prompted this post.
Someone, a youngish someone, female, although that’s probably not relevant, got up and left.
No explanation, no gesture of ‘goodbye’, just upped and gone.
When I started teaching yoga at the spa, if that happened, it would really throw me for a loop. I would be distracted for the remainder of the class wondering why, and quite frankly, being a bit put out. Nah, pissed off!
“How rude”.
‘Why didn’t they stay?”
“They should have stayed”.
“They have missed out”.
“How dare they”.
“I want to speak to them”.
On occasion I have even called out,
”Don’t go yet, it’s just about to get good. You’ll miss the best part!”
I don’t take it personally anymore, but I do think they have missed out!
Now what I imagine, is their thought process. What was going on in their minds and how did they conclude that it wasn’t for them and what was their judgment of the situation?
I have noticed that it’s often younger people under 30 that do this, and without being judgmental, but observing this behaviour, it could be for a number of reasons :
– that we (in class) seem too old, so it will be a gentle class.
– that we won’t be ‘up to’ the kind of class that they want to do.
– that ‘chanting’ is a waste of time, they just want to get to the exercise part.
– that it will be a ‘traditional’ class.
Etc, etc …
Whatever the reason – they will never find out the truth – because they left the room.
How many times might that have happened to you? That you judged, decided and came to a conclusion without investigating further to find out if it were true?
What have you missed out on because to came to a faulty conclusion?
For the girl that left the room the other day … you should know that we laughed, had fun and got hot and sweaty doing ‘hard’ stuff.
Those with the grey hair knocked it out of the park! You, however, have a different image in your head about what was about to happen …
and you missed out!
Don’t be that girl.
Don’t cut off your chances, your potential and your capacity for fun just because you jump to an untrue conclusion.
